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Stress from spouse beginning or stopping work

While you might not be the one undergoing the transition at work, you can still feel the effects of a job change for your spouse. Because it's a change in what you've become used to, there may be several things that you need to deal with or suffer stress as a result. The overwhelming feeling that comes about when you're dealing with a spouse's beginning or stopping of work is a lack of control over what is happening - even if it was a change that you both discussed and agreed upon.

When a spouse is beginning a new job, they can feel a lot of stress in terms of their performance. They want to do as well as they can so that they can hold onto the job and provide for their family. This change becomes a part of your life when the spouse begins to stay at work for longer hours than they used to or comes home complaining about their job. To help in the stress management of this situation, you will want to recognise that this is a period of transition for the both of you and that eventually it will be much easier. Your spouse will learn their new responsibilities and be less worried about how they are fulfilling them. Being patient can sometime be the best stress management technique.

If your spouse has suddenly stopped work, this can also be a strained time in your relationship - especially if it was unexpected. In order to deal with this time, you may want to create a time when you can both talk about your feelings in relation to this change. Try to find out what your spouse is feeling as well as figure out what you are feeling. This will allow you to both understand the other's feelings as well as see where you might want to make changes. For example, if your spouse was fired from their job, they can feel like they were a worthless employee, but if you can point out their positive attributes, you will both recognise that this jobless state is not something that will be permanent state.

Most job changes are stressful for financial reasons as well - having more or less money changes the balance of your life. If you know in advance of the job change, you may want to create a plan for handling the money that will be in your life as a result. This will help you both feel in control of the situation as well as lessen your worry about being stable in this respect.

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