Stress from sexual problems

• Find out what is happening - There's nothing more stressful than having a problem that you don't understand. You will want to talk with your doctor about the sexual difficulties that you are having, even if it doesn't seem to be a physical issue. Your hormone levels may be off kilter, but a simple blood test can help determine that kind of issue. And it's easily remedied by hormone therapies. Other more serious sexual problems that are diagnosed might take more intensive therapies and treatments, but knowing what is happening will help to alleviate a lot of your stress about the situation.
  
  
• Don't create a situation of blaming - When you make one person out to be at ‘fault' for the sexual problems you are having, you create a more stressful situation. Instead, try to change your perspective to that of working through the issues together. Because in the end, these problems are affecting both of you.

During this stressful time, you will want to continue talking about your feelings with your partner in order to create an open dialogue about what is happening in your relationship. Hidden problems in a relationship can cause many sexual problems. Opening up about your concerns may help you overcome this trying time.

If the sexual problems seem to be mental in nature, there are several relaxation techniques that you can utilize:

• Deep breathing during intercourse and directly before
• Kama sutra techniques - These techniques are based on connected more deeply with your partner through a number of techniques: soul gazing, sensual touch without sex, etc.
• Couples retreats
• Having one person instigate the sexual action of the relationship - especially when they're the one experiencing a lack of libido
• Creating a no-pressure sexual policy
• Instituting a time of no sex in order to create desire for that which you can not have or at least taking the pressure off

Many sexual problems are physical in nature, but others can be the result of simple stress and exhaustion. By taking the time to create a comfortable sexual environment in your relationship via relaxation techniques, you will be able to get back to your ‘normal' levels of sexual activities.

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