Single Private Lesson

Single lessons are for anyone who doesn't want on-going coaching.  They give you the ability to book just one lesson (or as many as you want), when you want.  Money can be saved if you book a private lesson program which consists of 3 lessons.

What will the structure of a single lesson be?

This depends very much upon your present situation, in particular your levels of self-awareness, and what it is you want. Each lesson is tailored perfectly to you.

Read what a couple of previous clients have to say about working with Charles...

Ian Mountford

Before Ian had his first lesson, this is what he told us about his situation: 

"Ever since I was a child, and for as long as I can ever remember, I have bitten my fingernails. Forever being told off. "Take your fingers out of your mouth!" my Dad used to shout, and I just carried on doing it because it was my little act of rebellion in an otherwise normal childhood, and I got a kind of sadistic pleasure from the pain that came with it, even as a kid. I'm even doing it now while I contemplate what to write here. And it's not just the nails. Basically, any part of the skin, nail or cuticle that I can get at. I have tried a few different things in the past to try and stop, including coating my hands in that horrible tasting stuff you can get from the chemist, but all to no avail. My godfather, who has always worked with animals and has real problems keeping his nails permanently clean, used to tell me to "have a go at his" instead of my own and see how enjoyable that would be, but even the thought that what I am doing is really on a par with that has never really bothered me. I'm at the stage now where I think it's all about pain, i.e. how much pain can I suffer as a result of the biting? I have bitten the whole nail off my left index finger this year, and now take every opportunity to continue attacking it as it tries to grow back. Even though it hurts so much I just cannot stop attacking it more. I think I'm also right in saying that there is never a day that passes in which I do not try and bite every nail on every finger on each hand. And if I can't get any joy from the nails, I'll move onto the skin, and so on.

The majority of my work time is spent in meetings, doing everything I can to create a great impression.  Image is really important in my business when meeting people, so it helps to get the basics right. But I've come to realise in the last few months that I am now consciously covering up my nails when I speak to people as I'm so embarrassed by the mess that they are in. I have a feeling that the escalation in my biting habits may be associated to a lack of proper relaxation - I don't sleep at all well, and probably haven't for a good few years now since (a) reducing the amount of sport I'm involved in after a very active and competitive career, and (b) working very long hours in the City for a couple of years - and perhaps also issues around self-confidence. I would not consider myself any different to anyone else who is absorbed by work and wakes at funny times of the night rattling off to-do list items. I have recently done my best to clean up my skin as I have also continually suffered from mild acne, and this process has led me to think that the time my hands spend around my face as a result of biting my nails is not helping much on this front, either. I want to stop, and am prepared to do whatever it takes. It'll make me feel that I've really achieved something, it'll look great, and give me even more confidence in every situation, not just in business.

These are Ian's comments having had 3 lessons with Charles:

Fitting in the lessons has been no problem, and the homework has been ok, but tough to complete as it involves doing nothing - a way of being that I am learning all about and beginning to benefit from.

I struggle with the release of my old habits, and expecting to understand what comes next. Always asking questions and expecting answers to everything. But I now can see that that way has got me this far, but cannot get me any further, and the new approach is allowing me to see no barriers to all the things that I want to achieve in my life. Getting back to a childlike state of seeing nothing but new experiences one after another, and dealing with everything new that arrives once a stable, balanced state is achieved.

I cannot say one particular thing has had the most profound effect apart from the obvious realisation of such a new and important skill for me to use in my everyday life. I nearly hurt myself with one of my new nails, so I'm sure that must count somehow! I have found that the reduction in my nail biting is a by-product of the whole relaxation process, and I now realise that it is just a way that I have programmed myself to procrastinate and fill space with a task.

After three sessions with Charlie, I have a new way of looking at my life. I already viewed it as a continual learning process but, added to this new understanding, I can already see benefits in the way I am when I am on my own by living and being ‘in the moment'. I get things done, and use a plan as a guide rather than an instruction book. There is still work to do on my interactions with other people, and the voice in my head is quick to judge and ask questions that are not relevant or required, but I'm using my techniques to engage my ‘clean' hard disk and access a stable state of being on a more regular and natural basis.

I have a business to build, and some action to take in my personal life quite soon. I am using a way of being now that can enable me to do anything I choose, and that's what I'm going to do. To meet Charles and talk to him at this stage of my life has been an enlightening experience, and I am certain that it is also one of my defining moments that has opened my eyes to the life that I can have. I know there will be difficult times and setbacks in a variety of forms as time goes by, but the faith I have in myself is strengthened when I see that there is everything in front of me from this point forwards - excitement, adventure, challenges, and much more, all in the shape of the rest of my life."
 

Sheila Stacey MB,BChir,MA,MRCGP,DRCOG

Before retired GP Sheila Stacey learnt how to relax using The 4th R's method, she'd tried various traditional and alternative self-help systems. She was managing, but was sad and dispirited about  how her health was constraining her day to day life.

Once she'd learnt The 4th R's relaxation method, she was amazed how much easier it was to reduce stress and anxiety, and be positive about her life again.   

Listen to what Sheila has to say...

"Before I started learning how to relax with Charles Moore, I had tried many ways to reduce stress, relieve anxiety and help me come to terms with having high blood pressure and heart disease. I had reached a point where hope of thoroughly enjoying life again was fading fast. I was becoming increasingly tense and indecisive about so many things.

The hardest thing for me about Charles' work was letting go of the desire to know the overall plan. Once the sessions started, I was amazed how easy it was to reduce my stress and anxiety, and I soon realized that it was not so much a relaxation technique, but a way of being inside my self.

Since learning how to be relaxed more of the time, I feel much more positive about my state of health and my life generally. It has even impacted the way I'm now interacting with people.  For example, I was able to say "no" to a colleague's demand for my immediate attention. I calmly offered a time that was more convenient for me, and adequate, though not perfect, for him. 

Learning how to be relaxed has given me a new way of being where I am in control of my life much more of the time. I'm certain that this can only be having a positive impact on my health."