Relaxation Matters Issue 18

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I need to learn how to relax!

Learning to relax : Top 10 Get Physical Favourites

Stress Solutions+ : Combating Intimidation

Under the spotlight : A fresh look at goal setting

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Learning to relax

Top 10 Get Physical Favourites

Expressing yourself openly is a great way to relax. Here are our Top 10 Get Physical Favourites!

1. If you have to shake someone's hand, do so with enthusiasm.
2. If you have to give someone a hug, imagine they're an old friend you haven't seen in years.
3. If you're annoyed, stamp your feet.
4. If you're going to smile, make it a beaming and radiant one.
5. Laugh out loud when the mood catches you.
6. Shout out with joy when you're happy.
7. Clap your hands enthusiastically when you see someone achieve something worthy of recognition.
8. Cry with drama when the mood takes you.
9. Stroke your partner lovingly.
10. When you're excited, run around and jump up and down.

Stress Solutions+

Combating Intimidation

The problems most people have in regard to social or professional situations revolve around the fact that they allow themselves to be intimidated. Being intimidated by "the other guy" causes stress levels to rise, and being able to relax becomes very difficult. Stress Solutions this month provides advice on how you can turn the tables on the other guy by developing your personal power.

Power Tool 1: Posture
Does your posture suggest "I'm only a salesman/housewife/clerk?" Does it say to people "I'm small and unimportant?" Your posture speaks volumes and if it's shouting out these kinds of self effacing thoughts, then you're going to be intimidated no matter how great your knowledge or ability might be. Practice adopting a powerful posture by creating in your minds eye a picture of strength and power. Look out for people who seem to already have a powerful posture. Notice everything you can about their posture, and copy it in your own way.

Power Tool 2: Preparation
Being prepared means that you will naturally be more confident and this will be reflected in your posture and behaviour. In a work situation, think about what "ace" you can carry up your sleeve that, when presented, will firmly position you as someone to respect. Examples of "aces" may be a particular area of knowledge, or demonstration of a particular skill. In a social situation, have up your sleeve a few conversation topics that will position you as an equal and someone to take notice of.

Power Tool 3: Participate
The trick with this power tool is to speak up within the first 60 seconds of being with the other person. Speaking up within the first minute establishes you as a player and that you have confidence in yourself.

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Under the spotlight

A fresh look at goal setting

It's particularly common this time of year to be thinking about the future. Goals are being set by individuals the world over in a determined effort to turn over a new leaf, kick old habits and move toward a life that works. However, of the millions of well-intentioned people who set out their goals, only a small number are successful in their pursuits.

How would it be if instead of 'what you want' being things to attain on the outside (for example, a new job, a better car, more money, to find that special someone...) you switched the focus of 'what you want' to be a way of being inside yourself.

With this alternative focus, your goal might become "to maintain a sense of peace inside" (peace could be interchanged with freedom, aliveness, comfort, balance - any word that matches how you want to be inside yourself as you go about your life). If this were your goal, your number 1 decision criteria becomes "will doing 'x' (what ever that may be) allow me to remain in 'peace'?".

If the answer is "no", you don't do it. If the answer is "yes" you do it. If the answer is "I'm not sure" you don't do it until you have enough information to be able to clearly decide yes or no.

How different might your life be if you adopted this approach to goal setting rather than the traditional approach of achieving things on the outside?

How different might your day to day experience be if your number 1 decision criteria was "will doing 'x' enable me to maintain (enter your word here)?"

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What makes the Function Relaxation Coaching Program so successful is its "real life" practicality. It's definitely designed for ordinary people in ordinary day to day situations - at work, in the home, and out socially. You won't be learning the kind of relaxation that you have to take time out to do, in a quiet room somewhere. Neither is it the kind of relaxation that relies on a stiff drink, sitting cross legged, or going off to "find your self".

What you will learn instead is how to be relaxed, naturally, as you go about your every day life. Having this ability is priceless and it's what rests at the heart of a life that works. It's what we call Functional Relaxation, and it's what Charles will teach you when you arrange to work with him privately through the Functional Relaxation Coaching Program. Find out more...

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