 To live life being profound relaxed does not require a divine intervention That happened when you were born and is simply dormant within you Charles Moore | Your 10 minute read to a happier body and mind Questions? Call +44-20-8974-8974 "If you've found this useful, please help us grow our readership by using "forward to a friend" at the bottom of the email. Thanks. " Stress Solutions+ : Speak well of your symptoms – they are your ally Under the spotlight : The low down on private Learn to Relax lessons Hot news : A once in a blue moon genuine fr(ee) offer Hot topic : Health Warning: The mutual deceit game kills Up-coming training : Introductory group lesson Educational evening : Thursday 31st August Learning to relax A ren(o)wned psychologist by the name of Albert Ellis Ph.D. developed a simple model to help us think about our emotions. “A’s” are the Activating events For example, when a husband does the cooking (A) his wi(f)e can see this as a great gift (B) or an indirect criticism of her own cooking (B), and thus feel gratitude (C) or anger (C). The premise of the MythoSelf® Process is that you get to choose the “B’s” and consequently the emotional consequences that you experience. DECIDE. What experience do you want to be having? Speak well of your symptoms – they are your ally “When health issues start showing up, contrary to some people’s beliefs, it’s a time to rejoice and thank the wisdom of your body for brining to your attention an imbalance that you can n(o)w address” says Relaxation Doctor, Charles Moore. Our emotions impact our health and our emotions are driven by how we organize our physical structure (our body) and the myths (the stories) that we tell ourselves – our “self-talk”. This explains how it is that an event can occur that causes very different responses in different people. Let’s take chronic itching as an example. One person might tell themselves that it’s a nuisance and curse the fact that they can’t seem to stop itching. Another person might tell themselves that the itching is evidence that their body is working perfectly and that healing is n(o)w occurring. Feelings and emotions we experience are not caused by the events that precede them, but by the meaning we attach to them, or as The Relaxation Doctor puts it “by how we hold ourselves in relation to the event and what story we make up about it”. “The method that I primarily use when teaching people how to relax is the MythoSelf® Process, which has been heavily influenced by the work of mythologist Joseph Campbell, and in particular the Hero’s Journey model. The Hero’s Journey is a timeless description of life that is common to all, and it introduces the idea that when a person continually ignores the call (an example of a call is ill-health), crisis occurs as a way to force a person to address what they have been ignoring, putting off, or just not aware of because of their detachment with their own body”. So when operating from a framework such as described above, it’s no surprise that Charles carries such conviction about the power of positive self-talk. He advocates that right from the beginning, when the call is a mere whisper and the symptoms of ill-health are relatively mild, it’s important that we have grateful thoughts toward the wisdom of our body and think of symptoms as our ally. This personal mythology alone may be enough to bring about the metabolic equilibrium necessary for health. Under the spotlight Benefits of lessons
How long is a lesson? Can it be done over the telephone? What happens after a lesson How many lessons will I need The second is your current level of self-awareness. If you already have good awareness and use of your body then faster progress will be made during the lesson than someone who has very little self-awareness. Most people we see aren't self-aware at all. Prolonged disassociation with their body has meant that they have developed health issues and these people typically come along for lessons fortnightly or monthly over a period of time. The third is your budget. How many lessons you need and decide to take is up to you. Simply put though the more lessons you take, the more refined your ability to access being relaxed will become, and your capacity to remain relaxed will build. How much does a lesson cost To book a private lesson A once in a blue moon GENUINE fr(ee) offer Got a company newsletter? Why not have The Relaxation Doctor write a regular column providing plain spoken, practical and refreshingly helpful tips and techniques on how to eliminate stress and profoundly relax. However often your newsletter is published, The Relaxation Doctor will deliver solid ideas employees can use right away to increase their ability to relax. Whether it's for health reasons, business productivity, sports perfor(m)ance or anything else, The Relaxation Doctor's column will help employees be relaxed and remain that way. You have nothing to loose and everything to gain! * Increased motivation What's the catch? The only thing we can think of that you might perceive as a "catch" is that we would like to reserve the right to mention an up-coming event that we have in our diary at the end of the column. What do I do next? Arrange a 3 month trial by calling us right away on +44-(0)20-8974-8974 or email janice@the4thr.co.uk If you need a letter to wave in front of the editor of the newsletter or your boss to help convince him or her that this is a great idea, then use this one. Hot topic How often do you sit back and allow a person to spin you a yarn that’s loaded with deceit? You might be with someone in a social or business situation. They say something to you that you kn(o)w is a load of rubbish and yet you don’t pull them up on it. How come? Most probably because you're playing the “mutual deceit game”. The rules are that if you don’t pick me up on the rubbish I say, I won’t pick you up on yours. That way everything remains cozy and nice. The message that you are putting out to the other person is that it’s OK with you that they are dishonest with themselves and you. It is also communicating that you have no respect for the other person or your self. The trouble with this game is that your body has a pre-verbal response to everything – including this deceit. You may even be aware of feeling “ill at ease” whilst it is happening and some time after. Engaging in the mutual deceit game should come with a serious health warning. Living a sham will be creating dis-ease in your body, and eventually your body calls out with health issues – it’s saying “hey you out the(r)e…wake up to what effect what you say and do on the outside is having on the inside!” In case your health isn’t motivation enough to throw in your mutual deceit game chips, he(r)e are some other considerations: “But I don’t want to be unkind” “But she doesn't’t mean any harm” “But he’s a nice guy otherwise” “I don’t want to appear rude” “I don’t want to fall out with her” Up-coming training If you want to be relaxed at any time, with any one, no matter what, then come and learn how. Join Charles Moore on Thursday 31st August in Kingston for his monthly educational evening. | Back | |
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